When you value each other spiritually, you partner with God to help your spouse reach their spiritual potential. This means committing to pursuing God as individuals and together as a couple. Spiritual intimacy will not occur unless we both put our own needs behind meeting the needs of our spouse. Once you’ve shared your dreams, your spouse must honor them, respect them, and treat them carefully.
Research has shown that the deepest fights in a relationship occur on a “dream level”—what our hearts long for the most.
Their wisdom is not inerrant, but it may still be valuable. Let the Scriptures be your guide in all matters of faith and practice.” Ask trusted counselors about your relationship and carefully consider their concerns. The Bible forbids Christians from marrying non-Christians, so the most important spiritual harmony comes by ensuring your future spouse is a true believer.
Value God’s purpose for your spouse, pursue God together, sacrifice your own needs and desires, and create a safe atmosphere where you can help your husband or wife fulfill their dreams.
Few things in a marriage are as important as spiritual intimacy between a husband and wife.
Spiritual intimacy is a sense of unity and mutual commitment to God’s purpose for our lives and marriage, along with a respect for the special dreams of each other’s hearts.
Priolo warns, “The Bible teaches that, as a follower of Jesus Christ, you should not move forward until you are confident that what you are about to do is not sin” (see Romans 14:5, 23).
We can draw from the Bible a “holding principle” that warns us not to act until we are confident that it will not be sinful to proceed.
But the Bible offers many and repeated warnings about sexual intimacy outside of marriage (which includes, of course, sexual intimacy prior to marriage).