But he's a frequent user and becomes a different person when he's high—he acts unintelligent and clueless.The other problem is that when he has it, he can’t keep his hands off it, so there can be days on end when I only see him high.We are in our late 30s and I have no moral objection to occasional pot use.I did a bit of when I was younger, but have outgrown it.I do wonder about people who think love will overcome this problem, because surely everyone knows marriage and kids rarely heat up things.I have suggested scheduling sex, which doesn’t sound sexy, but having sex turns out to be more sexy than not having it.Or is she saying to herself, “I hate when he touches my nipples. I hate when he wants me to stroke his …” This inquiry into your wife’s feelings needs to be sensitive, even oblique.
Dear Prudence, My wife and I have been happily married for more than a decade. I enjoy sex with my intoxicated wife, but I don’t love that she needs to be several sheets to the wind to get in between the sheets.I’m just suggesting that casting aside your routines and responsibilities might be a way to create some new sparks.Dear Prudie, I am at an impasse with my husband over his recreational pot use.Maybe more sex therapy could help, but who has time for appointments with three young kids and jobs? Dear Glass, Those are some loaded questions: Is it a problem that your wife has to get intoxicated to enjoy sex with you, or should you be delighted she’s willing to get intoxicated to have sex with you?From your account, your wife was never that interested in sex, and so you are one of those couples who decided to pair up despite your mismatched libidos.In most of these cases, though, the partners have established that they enjoy each other in bed—they’re just not getting there often enough.