After a little while of chatting and waiting and waiting for responses, My response: Unfortunately, you’re running into the sad situation that is online dating.Too many women have fake profiles that are used for making money, i.e., directing men to paid porn sites or personal Web sites or just asking men outright for money.They need to make as many contacts as possible—remember it’s a numbers game. You are doing the best you can by being smart and wary of potential fakers. Will enough singles get fed up with the not-so-great state of online dating and demand better from the industry? As a contributor to online dating industry forums, I continue to bring up the issues associated with fake profiles: liars, thieves and cheats, and the accountability of the industry for a solution. Even if you put on your profile in bold letters, “No Fakers or Sex Industry Professionals,” it won’t help. My suggestion for your first contact, if you’re worried they’re not telling the truth, is to ask them outright. The standard industry reply is that “it’s not cost effective” and that “singles won’t pay for it.” Well, singles are “paying for it” in time, frustration, dissatisfaction and with their wallets. Do report a fake profile to your online dating service, it’s at least a step in the right direction—you’ll be helping out by not letting the next guy or girl be faked out.If a lot of their profile says, “ask me,” or says very little at all, it’s probably a fake.
There are services that can do background checks for you, if you feel the person is worth looking into further.
Verified, Schmerified Beware of the “verified” profiles that some sites tout.
Even some of the more clever fake profiles can get “verified” by using a friend’s credit card.
Put on your battle gear because dating has become a minefield strewn with fakes ready to blow up in your face …
they’ll tell you everything you want to hear, but at a price.
Often the scammer will say an emergency situation has arisen and money is needed fast to avoid dire consequences.