The first group is "Strict Muslims" who date halal (in an Islamically permissible style).The second group I call "Eid Muslims," because many are not strict in practice and attend mosques only on holidays.Islam has given this freedom of choice to both young men and women - they cannot be forced into a marriage that they don't want.
Qur'an, Among His proofs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility and contentment with each other, and He placed in your hearts love and care towards your spouses.
African-American Muslims, as well as Arab and Asian immigrants from cultures that practice arranged marriages--are now unenthusiastic to do the same for their own children.
In an arranged marriage, a Muslim family usually investigates the prospective candidate further - talking with teachers, professors, employers, friends, family, Imams, colleagues, etc. It is a well-known fact that Islamic religious or cultural events are often segregated by gender?
This was not there in North America before the Second World War.
The women used to wear long chaste dresses and their dating did not involve the close intimacy that we see today.
A question arises as to how they met each other before their marriage? They had probably met at work and dated each other.