And then started the whole process over with someone else. Have you ever heard a husband openly celebrate his wife’s past dating relationships?So, instead of preparing ourselves for marriage, we actually prepared ourselves, practically speaking, to walk from marriage. Have you ever heard a wife mourn that her husband didn’t date more people?Dating is an intentional pursuit of marriage, not casual preparation for it.
Godly wisdom is a wide stream, and God’s word often allows us to apply his heart and wisdom in remarkably different ways, even in dating. It came in many forms, but it goes something like this: So, I started paying tuition, registered for classes, purchased the textbooks, jumped into relationship after relationship, and never looked back — until I wanted my money back.The truth is we have given dating far too much credit, and far too much power in our pursuit of marriage.And because we misunderstand and misuse dating, we end up making more and greater mistakes in our search for love.By all means, if we want to be married, we should prepare ourselves to be married.But we don’t prepare ourselves for true, lifelong romance by experimenting with lesser, short-term romance.Instead of “studying” for marriage by only giving ourselves away to other lovesick single people, we give ourselves to observing real-life, faithful, and happy husbands and wives.