Boy, I sure would hate to sit in that seat next and get all dirty."Or maybe you're taking several kids on an outing and one of them says something nasty to you.Again, try to set aside your hurt feelings and consider the situation as calmly as you can.If so, take him aside later and praise his behavior.Specifically mention what you liked about it: "I thought it was great that you told Jimmy not to call you 'stupid' and didn't say anything mean back."The same wait-and-watch rule applies when you're a witness to another child's rudeness: Maybe one kid kicks over another's sandcastle on the beach, or a child in a restaurant is racing around the tables while his parents ignore him.If your child is there, you don't want him to think this behavior is just fine.But many times, you won't be able to stop what's happening."You're not in charge of the whole world," says Betsy Brown Braun, a child development expert and author of .Stop putting kids first Imagine a relationship that centers on the two of you, and all the stability and care your kids will take from that.
Yes, that essay is a decade old, but it warrants a revisit because parents — mothers most especially — are still expected to make our children the center of our worlds, and I do love [my daughter]. It is not normal to spend all your time with children, nor make your offspring your primary emotional support.
But first, take a moment to suss out the situation. Is he extremely upset, or does he seem to be taking it in stride?
"Children learn by taking care of things themselves," says Alex J.
In fact, that is the big takeaway: Stop feeling guilty.
Most parents don't have too much trouble reminding their own kids about basic etiquette.
Because in those families, there is all the more love to go around.