Furthermore, the way dating websites calculate matches distorts the very core of interpersonal relations.Online seekers of partners and friends rely on computer calculations of a set of hard questions. Most of the time") that it cannot even be claimed to replicate real conversations.‘I’m sorry to say this,’ a friend of mine remarked while flipping through my proof copy, ‘but this sounds a little like the sort of thing your grandmother would say.’ To some extent, my friend is right: the aforementioned stereotypical granny and Badiou both share the conviction that internet dating sites are sad, that love today is under threat, that true love should be forever, that fidelity in love must outweigh the constant temptations to betray, neutralise or ignore it.On the other hand, I bet you’ll find some stuff in here that nobody else says, particularly regarding the non-relationship between love and politics, the experience of seduction in theatre, and the relation of chance to eternity.
It is something that most of us seek, but too frequently lose.
Yet it is these intrusions by business speak into the very inner workings of society that should be of great concern.
This is further emphasised by the manner in which these processes are explained by proponents of online dating, as "opening up options" and "putting yourself out there".
One site, match.com, offers both efficiency ("Receive your compatible matches straight away") and informed choice ("Choose who you'd like to get in touch with").
The irrational and unpredictable nature of something very human – love and the interpersonal – is turned on its head and transformed into a rational product.
As Badiou declares, everybody knows how dangerous love is; to fall into love is literally to risk giving oneself over to violence, suffering and terror. Justin Clemens teaches at the University of Melbourne.