He’d never assume that you won’t be able to get over that puddle of water without his help.
Of course, this gives a generalized picture, and I’ve heard of people meeting each other in other ways (Hannes and I have a different story, I’ll tell you some other time).
But from my experience, this is one of the most common scenarios.
When I lived in Italy, I often got approached by different men who wanted to ask me out.
There are so many women I meet that say they have a sense of humor, but they really don't. Teach your daughter that the "Queen Bees" and "Wanna Bees" and "mean girls" are a waste of time and she should just invest in one or two great friends. Don't allow her to pierce or tattoo her body until she's on her own. Teach your daughter that her choices in life are limitless.
She really can do anything - except maybe use the Men's Restroom.
Or if she doesn't want to talk, teach her to express her feelings through writing, art, music, sports, etc. Tall, short, fat, thin, your daughter is beautiful - inside and out.
Assuming that things went well at the club, sometime in the next few days one of you (it might just as well be the girl as the boy) will text the other and ask them out for a The fact that both of you are aware that you’re on a date while simultaneously pretending that it’s not a date can make things quite awkward, but that’s how it’s done.
To keep the conversation non-datish, the subjects you talk about are usually very neutral ones such as the housing market, Stockholm versus Gothenburg, how great your i Phones are, or how much the public transportation system irritates you (actually, the Swedish public transportation system is among the best ones in the world).
Depending on your moves and all-around charm, you might just share that one dance, or you might even spend the night together.
Either way, the chances are good that you’ll exchange phone numbers, which is crucial for the next step.
Many people regard those who only hang out in the bar as suspicious*. If you catch somebody’s eye, and the two of you look at each other for more than a second, then you’re good to start dancing with each other (at this point, you don’t even have to ask about the dance, you both know it’s coming).